Someone has just reacted! You have probably reacted in return. Drama is added to by drama.
There is a simple step to grow in rapid empathy and it just might give you space and time to not react - but respond with a powerful question.
Ask yourself - what's behind that reaction...then ask what's behind that...then ask what is behind that and you might (just might) get a deeper understanding of why someone is showing up as reactive.
Ask yourself - what is behind my counter reaction...then ask what's behind that...then ask what is behind that and you might (just might) get to a self-reflective space to bring deep and actionable self-awareness into the current moment.
You might then with your tentative exploration in hand ask a question of your duelling partner that fits your collective circumstance.
How come you are really upset by this? What grabbed you here? What is important to you in this? Whoah how can we better understand each others needs here?